Compassion: Caring for Others and Ourselves

“Don’t wait for ships to land or governments to crumble. Don’t wait for a financial collapse or a solar flash, or anything else that you’ve been hearing about… Let the change begin with you…to do something differently, to change your thoughts about something, someone, or some group, that will help you move past the old ways and move into the new world…”

The Andromedan Council of Light 

   channeled by Daniel Scranton(danielscranton.com)

Achieving the 5th dimension is about raising our vibrations to a higher level. We can’t do that, however, without renewing our relationship to this third dimensional world. That means not escaping, but incorporating all that we are and improving upon that. Compassion for ourselves and others is crucial.

In an online discussion entitled “Cultivating Compassion in Spirituality,” Matthew Fox, a well-known spiritual pioneer/leader and author of over 30 books, said that Compassion begins with an awareness of interdependence.

Interdependence or “Everything is Connected” is also the 1st Cosmic Principle. This principle refers to the fact that we are interrelated with everything on earth and beyond. We are part of everything and everything is a part of us. “The smallest atom and the largest galactic unit are connected and governed by the same rules.” (Do It Yourself Guide to Spirituality: Seven Simple Steps, Chatfield, 2011)

If we are all connected, then anything that happens to one person, happens to all of us. Criticism of another is criticism of ourselves. We cannot pretend that we live in a vacuum that isn’t entwined with others.

Matthew Fox also mentions that Compassion begins with the self. He states that people disliking themselves or their situation often project those issues onto others, instead of dealing with their own problems. Anger comes out in a variety of ways, he claims, and is often misplaced.

If people are upset with themselves but direct their frustration outward, perhaps our role is to be more sympathetic to their feelings. Too often people believe that others have it easier in life or have had better chances. Rather than dismiss this idea, we can try to understand. Their feelings are valid for them. Our view of their feelings is not important. If we are all connected, we can simply accept where they are. Showing sympathy and support for another can be such a strong action. We can’t get locked into a belief that our views and feelings are the only valid ones. 

Too often we pretend that everything is fine and cover up much in order to maintain that deception. The real issue is much larger, encompassing most of our relations with others. There is often a group, whether based on race, culture, gender, criminal activity, or diversity of thought that we designate our scapegoats. Then we feel better about ourselves because there are people worse than we are. 

But it is time to recognize the extremes of these old views that have insidiously invaded our consciousness. We believe we are right in insisting everyone think, act and feel as we do. When they don’t, we look down upon them. This is the society we inadvertently created as a result of thinking we could standardize our lives. We can’t. We are individuals and those differences must be acknowledged.”

(The Trust Factor: The Art of Doing Business in the 21st Century Chatfield, 1997.)

People often feel left out, thinking no one is listening. Compassion means not criticizing others even if we significantly disagree. Liking and respecting others can assist them in liking and respecting themselves. That is one way to raise our vibrations and “move into the new world” as mentioned above in Scranton’s channeling.

Too often we simply dismiss anyone who thinks differently. We seem to have developed an extreme intolerance for differing opinions. Passion for one’s beliefs is an asset. Using that passion as an excuse for belittling another or for inflicting violence is intolerable. We need to exhibit a civilized acceptance of others’ views. Somehow we seem to be circling the wagons around a very small group of individuals in our lives who look and think like we do.” (Don’t Fall Off the Bicycle, Chatfield, 2002.)

Ken Wilbur in Trump and a Post-Truth World (2017) poses another view of Compassion. This is not a political statement but an attempt by a world-renowned philosopher and author to suggest a possible way to heal and move forward. 

As explained by Wilber, and acknowledged by most psychologists, there are three major stages of human development:

  • Traditional – a belief in family values, fundamental religious views, patriotism, patriarchy, and the military with an ethnocentric view of loyalty to one main group.
  • Modern – a belief in rational thought, science, progress, individual rights, freedom, merit, profit, and incentive with a world-centric view of more inclusion and less oppression.
  • Postmodern – a belief in diversity, feminism, civil rights, environmental concerns and a desire to be all-inclusive with an emphasis on feelings.

Most Americans today, according to Wilber, think from the modern stage of development. Postmodernists were the leading-edge; their views truly changed the world. Many people, however, perhaps over half of the population, did not move forward into this view but remained either with their traditional, ethnocentric beliefs of loyalty to one group or with their modern world-centric view of emphasizing rational thought and individual freedom.

Perhaps we can learn to be more compassionate and less critical, knowing that so many people still reside in a different stage of development.  This is similar to not assessing elementary school students the same as those in high school, or expecting the same level of understanding from each of them. Our move into the 5th dimension requires this new thinking. Our compassion allows us to recognize that we are interdependent with all others, even if they express opposing views. What affects them, affects us. Our challenge is to listen and sympathize rather than criticize. In this way, we can help them as we continue to like and accept ourselves.

We all want to be acknowledged and appreciated.

Let’s help one another do that.

Be Compassionate. 

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